She is a Crown

In Proverbs 12 we learn,

“A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband.”

 I never considered this until a friend shared it with me, but the crown Solomon is referring to is the wife. As a wife honors her husband, the more prominent the crown appears! In fulfilling her role as his completer, both are lifted up. I watched this for years growing up. My mom honored my dad throughout my childhood and teen years. There were some very bumpy times during those years. My dad, as the superintendent of a large iron works company, built bridges and nuclear plants and had loads of pressures and stresses. In my childhood, sometimes he was like a walking time bomb. But never did I see my mom dishonor my dad. Even during the worst of times, she always made sure that I honored my dad even when I thought he didn’t deserve it. There is something sacred about honor.

I know there are many who will disagree with this, but we need to show honor even if it is not deserved. David honored King Saul even though he was trying to kill him. David’s example – though a bit extreme – teaches us a powerful principle of following God’s ways even when they don’t make sense.

As a result of my mom’s committed and honoring spirit, I watched the relationship of my mom and dad reach unfathomable levels of love and mutual respect. In fact, I don’t remember a day during the last twenty years of their marriage when my dad didn’t go out of his way to tell the world that he was married to the most beautiful woman in the world. Their marriage became a model for all, and everyone loved to be around them. There is no doubt in my mind that my mom’s years of devotion and honor laid the foundation for a marriage that was made in heaven.